Tendency to cling to old happiness

8                  Sad

When we lose something or someone we become sad. The degree of sadness may differ but we feel sad. Some time we feel so much sad that we do not feel like talking. We look for a place which is lonely. The pain is so much that it shatters us from within.

When we are sad, really sad as if we have sunk into sadness, our tears roll out. We feel robbed. We feel collapsed. There is complete calm, quietness and silence in us.

Such Sadness brings depth in us. Once the period of sadness is over we are no more the same. We are different. The sadness has added some more roots in us. More roots mean more growth in our maturity level. We find a new height of maturity in us.

Sadness is needed; Sadness is must for every one of us, though it is highly disliked. Sadness is needed when God decides to bring new happiness to us through different route. We have a tendency to cling to old happiness, old comfort or old relations. But God hates old. HE keeps on changing this world to make it new every time. It hurts now but we have to bear the pain, there is no choice. We have to bear this pain like a mother bears at the time of birth of a child. Later on she is rewarded with a new life. After sadness, there is a different joy; A new joy.

If sadness is happening, and if we accept it rather than frustrating then the sadness becomes like a dark night. The deeper the sadness is, the darker the night appears. Dark nights have very beautiful stars. We have to look at the darkness; we also have to find where the stars are. In sadness we tend to look to downwards. It is fine if we remain in that sadness for a while. Pain has happened. Next is gain.  

   

 We, just, have to be a silent observer. We have to watch how sadness is exploring us and how sadness is converting us.

To be continued.....

COMPOSED BY   PATHAK SIR  @pathaksirbst ( at twitter) OR  avnishpathak18@gmail.co

Let us separate for a while

7                  Space

There is a time when we want to go away from someone who gets much respect and love from us. That person may be anyone a beloved or life partner or best friend or a role model or anyone who brought smoothness in our life.

It was fine unto now, now a distance is soothing then the closeness. We wanted that closeness. We were desperate for that closeness. Now we need some space. A guilt feeling, however, bothers all the time.

There is no ‘guilt felling’ required. There is no need to feel such guilt. It is perfectly fine to have some space. Sometimes we need our own space.

To be near sometimes becomes a heavy thing. So we should be near only when we want to be, otherwise it is better to go away and have some space.

Everyone should have his own space. It is in our space, we have born and grew. We need our space to come back to us. In closeness (with anyone), we tend to lose our identity. To regain our self we need the space.

No closeness is permanent. But our space is permanent. Our space is essential for our life. Closeness happens in no man’s land. Closeness happens in different space. It is nether our space nor of our beloved’s. Sooner or later we have to come back to our home. We cannot live in other’s home for life.

Earlier there was hunger for closeness. The need at that time for closeness was very desperate. Once hunger has been satisfied, there is no appetite left for closeness. We start feeling hungry for space again. Soon we will be hungry again for closeness then for space again. Actually this is the basic characteristic (nature) of hunger. It comes again and again.

So there is no need to feel guilty if we are feeling a need for some space in any close relation.

Long time ago a teacher and his student were traveling across a vast land. They were invited by the king of that state for a certain ceremony. The land was very fertile. Lot of big trees had grown here and there. It was the first visit for the student through that land. His curious eyes were looking everywhere. He was troubling with a question. He asked his teacher,” sir, I have noticed an interesting thing. Plants which are under the big tree have not grown much and are not looking strong. But plants which are far from the tree have grown much and are looking stronger. Why is this?”

The teacher replied.

It is a universal law. To grow we need space. Big tree needs big space. Its big roots needs more earth to spread and to collect nutrition from the soil. It needs more air and more sunlight for its growth. So plants under them do not get space to expand or required amount of air or sunlight. This way they remain under develop. On the contrary plants away from big plants get sufficient earth, air and sunlight. So they grew much and they grew faster.

The same principle applies on the human being. If we remain under the shadow of someone for long, our growth is affected. Our growth is limited.  So every human should have his own space his own domain also.  We should remain in touch with this space for ever otherwise we will lose our identity. And, losing our own identity is another kind of death.

To be continued.....

COMPOSED BY   PATHAK SIR  @pathaksirbst ( at twitter) OR  avnishpathak18@gmail.co

WELL AND WILL

8              well and will

Once, Lord Krishna and parth Arjuna were passing through a dense forest. It was dusk time and both of them were feeling tired and hungry. To deflect his attention Arjuna asked a simple question from Lord Krishna,

“Why it happens that a poor man gets more and frequent troubles and torture from the hand of destiny than a rich man?”

Lord Krishna smiled in his own style but did not answer the question immediately, rather said to Arjuna,

“Parth, we are feeling tired and hungry. It is getting late as well. It looks we have to stay here for night. This place seems perfect. Let us do some cooking. I go and collect some dry wood for hearth; you go and collect some bricks to make a hearth.”

Arjuna bowed his head and set out to find suitable bricks, wondering, where he would find bricks in the midst of a forest. Luckily, after a while he reached to a place where he noticed two wells side by side. Walls of one well looked strong as if newly made, whereas walls of other well were in ruined from. He reached to the ruined well, picked some bricks and came back.

While cooking Lord Krishna asked Arjuna,

“ Parth, how did you get these bricks?”

Arjuna told him about two wells.

Lord Krishna asked him again, 
“Why he did not pick bricks from strong well and why did he pick bricks from the ruined well. Have you not ruined more the already ruined well?”  

Arjuna felt light struck. He realized that Lord Krishna is trying to answer his question   “Why it happens that a poor man gets more and frequent troubles and torture from the hand of destiny than a rich man?” in his own style.

Arjuna humbly replied, “My lord, I thought, why to deface a good and strong well. I further thought it is better to pick bricks from already ruined well.”  

Lord Krishna smiled and said that, this is the answer to your question which you had asked me. Both strong and ruined wells had the threat, that, their bricks might be taken away. However the stronger one survived the threat. The threat could not do any harm to that. The weak well had to bear the brunt. It will have to face the brunt again and again and again.

Lord Krishna said,
”Parth, those wells over there represents will power of human. Those having strong will power survive the threat. Threats (troubles) come. They will come again; they will come to a person having strong will power and also to a person having weak will power. But, person, having weaker will power will be hurt again, again and again as his weak will power makes him vulnerable. It is not always the destiny behind our troubles. Some times our approach is the reason for continue incoming of troubles. A rich man having weak will power may become poor, a poor having strong will power can become rich.  

To be continued.....

COMPOSED BY   PATHAK SIR  @pathaksirbst ( at twitter) OR  avnishpathak18@gmail.co

Ripple by Ripple

5          Ripple by Ripple

It is our life and it is tremendously precious. We are the real assets of us. Its value should grow. And nobody can do anything unless we decide to do something with our being, our future. Only our decision is decisive.

There are many people whom we would like to change and regulate and improve. This is very desirable. However, this is very difficult also.  

We can tell people they are wrong and they need to be changed for their benefits. We may be absolutely right but they will not take it as a favor. They will take it as a direct blow at their intelligence, judgment, pride and self-respect. They may argue but they will never want to bring change in themselves. We may try to persuade them with all logic but we will not be able to alter their opinions. We have actually hurt their feelings. They may even start telling our faults to us. They may say that we need to be changed first.

Actually they are right. We cannot change every one around us. But we can change our self much easily and we should. 

Even from a purely selfish standpoint, it is a lot more profitable than trying to improve others.

Confucius (a Chinese philosopher) had understood this fact many centuries ago. He suggested, "Don't complain about the dust on your neighbor's roof when your own doorstep is unclean."

When things go wrong we often blame others. We blame them for the loss.  If there is nobody to blame we start blaming Luck or the God. We have played this trick for a long time. And because of this trick, we have not grown; and have not become mature in certain areas of life.

The fact is that, we should first find fault within us. We have to do some introspection. Even if we are 100% sure we are right still we have to introspect. This is the challenge. What else we could have done? What we won’t do next time. What we should do next time.

There is nobody who is looking after us. We have to look after our self. There is nobody to whom we can say, ’You are responsible.’ All responsibility is ours. If we become wastage, it is because of us. If we go into hell, it is because of us. If we reach to heaven, it is because of us. If this is the attitude then we will definitely find areas where we can improve and thus our future success will improve.

This attitude will make us mature. We will take our life into our own hands.

Once we have brought a change in us we have to nurture it carefully. We have to make it our habit. Merely bringing the change is not enough. It can be lost, so we have to go on supporting it, helping it. We should never feel satisfied, because all that can be gained can be lost.

The old habits are great and deep-rooted; we have to make new changes as habit. The truth is, change the habits and be successful.

The past habits are almost like an ocean. The new change that has arisen is such a small wave, just a ripple. The ocean can drown it. So we have to fight for it so that it is not drowned.

Then by bringing other small changes in us we add more ripples. All ripples become so big that by and by the old ocean is drowned and a new fresh ocean appears.

Changing ripple by ripple is possible only by a special art. This art is rare. This art is known as "Self Criticism". Self Criticism is the best criticism. Moreover, Self Criticism is affordable. 

There was popular king, who was loved by his courtiers as well as by his people. Everyone wanted that a portrait of the king should be made and displayed in the court of the kingdom. The King surrendered to the wish of his people and gave his consent.

 A search was made to find the best painter. The search ended in a village. There lived a painter who was crazy but a marvelous painter. He was poor but used to remain always happy. He would make paintings of Gods and Goddess having background full of natural scene. Characters in his painting used to appear as if real, as if they would start talking.

Initially, he refused the offer to make the painting of the king. Later he agreed, when he was promised that the temple of the village will be renovated and expenses will be paid by the government. Further, the painter will be rewarded 11,000 gold coins if the painting is appreciated by all.  

The painter took one year to complete the painting. Meanwhile, the village temple was renovated as per the promise. When the painting was displayed in the court of the king, everyone including king and courtiers were awestruck and spell bound. Everyone was praising the skill of the painter. Experts were also there to find faults in the painting. They declared the painting as flawless. King announced that the painter be given 11,000 gold coin.

Instead of receiving reward, the painter moved towards his painting and tore it off. People started shouting, calling him mad. King angrily asked him the reason of his daring act. The painter innocently replied, "my lord there were some flaws in the painting which I could not notice before. But now when I saw the painting here, I noticed those flaws".

King said, “We, including expert, did not see any flaw. We were satisfied. You should have taken your reward and leave the painting to be displayed in the court.”

The painter replied, “My Lord please pardon my daring but I had seen those flaws and being a true artist I cannot accept the reward for a faulty piece of creation. My lord I am a critic to my own art. Sooner or later you and other might have noticed those flaws. My lord give me time, I will come back with improved painting."

The painter came back next year and displayed his new painting. Everyone noticed that the new version of the painting was much better than the old version which he had torn off. He was praised by everyone again. King offered him 21,000 gold coins instead of 11,000.

When the painter asked the reason for the increment in the reward money, the king replied, “Because you are a self critic. Those who find fault with themselves are rare breed, so you deserve increased reward because you have placed yourself above the appreciation and the criticism of others and I guess this is the secret of your lasting happiness.”

To be continued.....

COMPOSED BY   PATHAK SIR  @pathaksirbst ( at twitter) OR  avnishpathak18@gmail.co

Let it go or not

4        Let it go or not

When we look at our past life it appears very short. It also reminds us the opportunities which we have missed. When we actually live the life, it appears long. We often postpone the demand of heart to meet the demand of mind. Heart demands love and care where as mind demands new achievements.  It is in our nature that we do not care, if, something appears to be more. But we care much, if, it is not much.

Whole life we worry about future. We try to predict and protect future. If future looks certain we do not worry about this moment: We let it go casually. We assume that this moment of happiness will come again. We postpone our enjoyment for next time. But if future looks uncertain and we know that this is the last chance to enjoy, we wish this moment of happiness should spread to whole of our life. We try to enjoy every grain of that moment. we are afraid that this moment is going. A fear grips us. We want to cling to that moment.

Whatever we are having is not going to be with us forever. Even we are not here on this earth forever. Beautiful moments which GOD has offered to us are chain reaction of many other moments. This may not happen again. Next time we will not see the same combination or color or texture of such moment. We should allow that moment to make us happy. We should surrender our self to that moment of pleasure. Moments of troubles are problems of mind. Mind is smarter than we believe. It will take care when those moments come. Heart is innocent. Heart is child like. Heart needs caring. The best care of heart is to allow it to enjoy the moment of joy. This will refresh the heart. A refreshed heart will strengthen the mind as well as body. This mind will be more prepared to face the coming challenges.  That is why some of the religious teachers preached and advocated dancing and singing.

In the courtyard of a temple a learned man was telling stories of the Lord Krishna. He was narrating every details of a dancing act of Lord Krishna with many Gopies (female devotees) in Vanshivat (Virndavan). There were many listeners. Most of them were women.

A young woman asked a question from the learned man. How can dancing of lord Krishna with so many women be considered a religious act? It is a wrong motivation to some of the modern boys. They tease us. When we object, they claim that it is what even Lord Krishna did.

 The learned man heard the question, pondered a few seconds and then said. Teasing a woman is a serious offence. It is happening in every country. It is happening ever since humanity came into being. It is conducted by men of every religion. Now, the boys who trouble you have nothing to do with Lord Krishna. They are using his name just as an excuse. They like teasing a woman so they are doing it. They will find some other excuse to justify their wrong doing. The fact is they are doing it because they are not well nurtured. Not every male is teasing women. It is because some are decently cultured but some are not; unfortunately.

   Now “How can dancing of lord Krishna with so many women be considered a religious act?”

He said. The first and foremost purpose of the religion is to bring happiness in the life of every person till he lives on this earth.

Lord Krishna came to this earth as a human to do some great job. He knew it. He was to live a complete life like every human being. Living a complete life is not easy. One has to face so many tensions and so many small or big challenges. Lord Krishna was a very good flute player. To relax he would often play flute at a lonely place. This way he would enjoy some of the moments of mortal life. He would often lost in playing music. In such a situation his eyes remained closed. It was like he was doing musical meditation. The musical notes which he used to play were of divine; never heard before or after Him. He even would not know that his music had gathered Gopies around and had infatuated them to dance. It was a natural dance, a very spontaneous act from the Gopies. They were not applying any force. Not a single dancing step was planned. Dance was just happening. Like our breathing which just happens. We do not breathe. It just happens. Lord Krishna standing in middle, playing flute, was enjoying his own music. Gopies dancing around him were enjoying their own dance. They were also lost, not knowing what was happening. Lord Krishna was not there to enjoy so many Gopies around. Similarly Gopies were not there to enjoy the Lord Krishna. Both of them were enjoying their different enjoyment. The Lord was enjoying music. Gopies were enjoying music as well as the natural dance which their body was reflecting. No one was touching any one. There was no need to touch any one. Those were the moments of true happiness and they were not missing it.

It was truly a religious act, said the learned man to the woman, because it purified the every soul present there and because it brought true happiness to them.

It was a teaching nor by words but by action. Lord Krishna was teaching us how to enjoy our life moment by moment. Neither he was playing such music for ever nor were Gopies dancing for whole life. They had other task as well.

Later when lord spread message of GITA he did his best. Future generation is reaping the benefits of it. He would not be able to do it if he would have missed those moments. He would then be a frustrated person. A frustrated person cannot teach GITA.

To be continued.....

COMPOSED BY   PATHAK SIR  @pathaksirbst ( at twitter) OR  avnishpathak18@gmail.co

Faith vs. Trust

3        Faith vs. Trust

The heart sometimes opens like a lotus flower... and it is tremendously beautiful when it opens. But the heart can only be opened,  when we feel love or we have true faith.

Often faith is confused with trust but it is not.

Faith is a strong religious belief that there is GOD and He helps. In faith there is no scope for doubt. If there is doubt there is no faith. Faith and doubt cannot stay together.

Trust is a normal belief which we have on humans (not on God) that he/she will do or perform as we expect. Trust is very fragile (weak). It is broken easily. Trust and doubt stay together. If we have trust on somebody,soon we will have doubt on him or her. 

We should have faith on GOD. We should not have trust on GOD. Trust happens in mind. Doubts also happen in mind. Doubts do no happen in heart. Faith happens in heart. GOD lives in heart. To acquire help from GOD we should have faith in HIM; trust is not required to get help from HIM.  

To survive in this economic word or to deal with people, we need to trust others. However, The trust will be broken sooner or later. Man is not wrong, his circumstances force him to act wrong. So many people cheat us in this life. this forces us to doubt on every relations and relatives.

Doubt is not always wrong. Doubt may be perfectly right. They are must to survive in this world. If we do not doubt, we will have to face many cheating s. 

For example, we are hiring a stranger as home servant. we should have doubt,  whether he is a thief or not; unreliable or reliable. Is it okay to keep this man in the house?

Since we have become accustomed (habitual) to doubt, we show doubt even on the presence of GOD. Even if we come face to face with God, we will continue doubting, if we are meeting a man or GOD.

Doubt separates. Faith unites. Faith unites our small power with the infinite power of God. And when we are united, the heart flows well, in a rhythm indicating that either my trouble is already over or will be over soon. A heart full of faith does not receive heart attack. It blooms like flower. A heart full of trust may receive heart attack.

Faith should be blind. Faith should be unconditional. Then only we can access to infinite power. Faith is password to unlock infinite power.  Trust is an investment on human, faith is an investment on GOD.

Powerful and vital Faith depends on belief. Stronger the belief stronger the faith becomes. Belief can be stronger if doubts are kept to all worldly affairs and not on the Godly affairs.

Two men fell from a plane 4000 feet above the earth. Both of them were dead scared. Gravity of the earth was dragging them. They were falling down with a speed.  Both of them were very religious persons. They used to spent lot of time in the worship of their GOD.

They used to follow all religious doctrines and used to donate often to poor people on religious ceremonies. One of them was a Muslim and other was a Hindu.

The Muslim was praying consistently, “Allah, please save me; Allah, please save me”.  Hindu was devotee of Lord Shiva. He was also praying with folded hands “Lord Shankar, please save me; Lord Shankar, please save me”.

When they were down to 3000 feet, still in sky and falling, their fear grew.  Muslim kept on praying “Allah please save me, Allah please save me”  but  Hindu became more nervous and terrified.  Many doubts gripped his mind.  He was praying but his mind was caught in doubts.  He anticipated that lord Shiva might not come for his help.  So, He decided to change his prayer. He was also devotee of Maa Durga.  He started praying “Maa Durga, please save me, Maa Durga, please save me”.

When they were down to 2000 feet, still in sky and falling, their fear grew into panic. Still Muslim kept on praying “Allah please save me,  Allah please save me”  but  Hindu became more nervous and more terrified.  His mind which was full of doubts forced him to change his prayer once again.  This time he used a new logic that Lord Hnuman is more popular as a rescuer so he started praying “Lord Hnuman,  please save me,  Lord Hnuman, please save me”.

When they were down to 1000 feet, still in sky and falling, their panic grew further. Death appeared almost certain to them.  Still Muslim kept on praying “Allah please save me, Allah please save me” but Hindu became more desperate and more terrified.  His doubt full mind offered him another logic. He noticed that Muslim was consistently requesting Lord Allah. He thought Lord Allah might be better choice.

Consequently he changed his prayer once again. He started praying “Allah please save me, Allah please save me”

Muslim went into oblivion still believing that Allah would save him where as Hindu was still struggling with his beliefs. The Muslim was saved by the grace of the Lord but Hindu could not be. He died.

Hindu was taken to the court of justice to decide his place in the heaven or hell.  He was very annoyed with Lord Shiva, Maa Durga, Lord Hnuman, and Lord Allah.  He requested to meet them before the decision of  his place in the heaven or the hell.

He was taken to them. He saw lord Shiva and tears came to his eyes. With folded hands he cried out. Lord Shiva I devoted my whole life in your worship, I had complete faith on to you. I requested you to please save me and still I am dead. Why this partiality to me?

Lord Shiva smiled in compassion. He spoke in consoling tone. My son I agree you have worshiped me your whole life. I am happy to have a devotee like you. When I heard your pray to save you, I decided to save you. When I was coming to you and was in the way I heard your words. You started requesting Durga Ji. I had No choice but to go back and help others who had stronger faith on me. Listen son, same happened with Durga Ji,  she ran to save you but once she heard you were no more requesting her,  she went back. Then, Hnuman ji ran as you were requesting HIM. But you are you; before he could reach to you, you made you call to Lord Allah. Hnuman ji also had no choice but to come back. Finally Lord Allah ran towards you. But before He could reach you, you collided with the earth and you died. You are a good soul and a good devotee. We all wanted to save you. But your shifting Faith is responsible for everything.  No partiality has been done to you. The other man was saved because he kept his Faith intact.

This is the secret. Faith is a faith; it should not be treated as trust. If faith is converted into trust we are bound to be deceived. we will not get desirable help from GOD.

To be continued.....

COMPOSED BY   PATHAK SIR  @pathaksirbst ( at twitter) OR  avnishpathak18@gmail.com

Being Grateful

  1          Being Grateful

We are grateful for things that have been done positively in our favor. We feel grateful that somebody helped us.

Interestingly, we even feel grateful for things which could have been done negatively. We feel grateful that somebody has not harmed us; he could have; it was so kind of him.

Feeling grateful is actually a rare event. Often we say that we are grateful yet most of the times we say so as a formality. Often we say these words to please someone but we do not mean it. Feeling grateful at heart is actually a rare event.

Common belief is that feeling grateful is just a way to thanks to someone and it makes others happy. There is another secret which only a few knows. It also does good to the person who feels grateful to others from his heart.

The more grateful we are, the less complaining and grumbling we become. It is a fact. Try it. Complaining and grumbling eat no one but us. Complaining and grumbling at time is must and is unavoidable. They should be done if no choice has been left and when other measures have been failed. But Complaining and grumbling as routine or as habit brings misery. We have everything and still we are not happy with others and others are not happy with us. This is misery.

The trick is to stop Complaining and grumbling as much as possible; once in a few months; fine.

Misery exists with complaints. It is hooked with complaints and with the complaining mind. We think nothing else. At times we even do not like food. It ruins our joy opportunities.

Once complaining habit disappears, misery will disappear.  If misery disappears, joy will appear. But it is not easy. Adopting habit of complaining is easy. It comes naturally. It is a gift of living in a society. Political minds are masters of it. But letting go habit of complaining is not easy. We always have reasons to complain. However, we have to over look these reasons if not always than most of the times.

 What should we do then?

 We should develop the feeling of gratitude in us and allow it to sink deeply within us. We have to concentrate on small things where others helped us. We should be grateful for even the tiniest help we receive from who so ever. We have to ignore where they did not, though they could have. We should not only have feeling of gratitude we should express it to the person who helped; irrespective of the quantity or quality of help.

 This brings some joy to the other person as well. He feels a sense of achievement. There is possibility that in the future he may help others. Now the equation is complete. Someone helped us in something. We, by feeling and expressing gratitude, brought some joy to him.

As a result and in return, immediately, we start feeling much happy. If we feel more, happy, we feel less in conflict, more harmonious, together. Our conscious and subconscious minds work in unity.

 If we feel together, more harmonious, suddenly we feel a certain grace surrounding us. These things function like a chain reaction: one starts the other, the other starts another, and they go on spreading.

Once, ten lepers came to Jesus Christ. They had heard that Christ had great healing powers. They all requested him to cure them. HE was their last hope. They were pleading HIM with tears in eyes. They were tired of the suffering they were facing. They were living a very miserable life. They were deserted even by their families. No one would give them job because of their disease. For food they were dependent on begging; even then they would have to sleep without food many times. They were often chased away or stoned with an allegation that they might spread the disease. They had come to Jesus Christ with huge expectations. It was afternoon by now. Jesus Christ used his heeling power one by one on them. All of them felt warmth and light and as if some power has passed through them. It was a moment when there was peace, joy, and a sense of release. It was a sudden experience. When it was over they knew that the healing has occurred.

When Christ opened his eyes he noticed that only one of them was stood there to thank Him. He looked towards his disciples in surprise and asked: "Where are the other nine?" they had all run away. Disappeared without thanks!

What did Jesus do then, did HE get annoyed, or did HE do complaining and grumbling? He just smiled and got busy in others. Jesus is God. He immediately forgave their behavior of ingratitude and HE did not stop helping others. But what would be the reaction of a human in this condition if he would have healed them. He would have been full of rage. He would be hurt by their ingratitude. He would never help others for free. Have we become so poor that we cannot say thanks to someone who has helped us? Are we so week that we cannot hold a feeling of gratitude towards someone who has changed our life positively?

To be continued.....

COMPOSED BY   PATHAK SIR  @pathaksirbst ( at twitter) OR  avnishpathak18@gmail.com

Fear of 'Better'

2         Fear of Better

Children are very- very receptive. They learn new style gladly. They adjust with the circumstances as the water of the river adjusts with its terrain.

We cannot say the same thing about grownups. As we grow older we become rigid towards adopting new style, technique or habit. Then a time comes when we stick to old experiences and refuse to change. This stage normally comes when we are 50+.

It is because our experience acts as a resistance.

For some people experience becomes stepping stone of next success and for some it becomes a source of fear.

The very fear will not allow us to investigate new lifestyles, new channelization of energy, new directions, new lands; it will not allow us.

A woman was very active and agile in her youth. When she became 60+ her body had lot of stiffness in every limb. Her body had become a permanent home of many pains and diseases. Most part of her income was going in medical tests, medicines and to the doctors.

Most of the times, she would just sit or lie on the bed. A wise man suggested her to move her body around. If yoga or other forms of exercise is not possible then do some household work.

She refused. The reason she gave is very interesting. She said,” I have any how acquired a balance, if I do any physical work I fear my balance will go; I would suffer much.”

Fear is like the weeds in the garden. One has to go on continuously pulling them up and throwing them away, otherwise they tend to overrun the whole garden. If we allow the weeds, sooner or later roses will disappear, flowers will disappear and there will be weeds all over the garden.

The fear had robbed the woman of her money and pleasure. If she would allow some changes she would definitely be better than what she was. She let her fear to stop becoming better.

To get rid of fear of change, accept small change. If result is better, proceed; otherwise bring some other kind of change.  Never allow any amount of stagnancy. If fear is less, make it even lesser.

 Soon weeds will be out and roses will bloom again.

To be continued.....

COMPOSED BY   PATHAK SIR  @pathaksirbst ( at twitter) OR  avnishpathak18@gmail.com